The Counterintuitive Science of “Can You Help Me?”
How a tiny brain hack can transform connections.
There’s this weird glitch in the human brain I learned about this week.
At first glance, it makes zero sense.
Imagine asking someone for a favour, shouldn’t that make them like you less? After all, you’re adding work to their life, not removing it.
But apparently, our brains don’t work that way.
Instead, when someone helps you, they don’t just do the thing, they also quietly adjust their internal story about you.
“If I helped this person, maybe it’s because I like them. Maybe they’re worth helping. Maybe they’re my kind of person.”
It’s a strange little psychological backdoor.
And once you spot it, you realise it might just be one of the most underrated tricks for building real connections.
You can read the article here:The Ben Franklin Effect: A Networking Superpower
That’s it for this week.
Manoj
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